What are your goals for the next 90 days??
Your 90-day goals must fit into the following criteria. They must be realistically achievable within a 90-day period and they must be measurable. Other than that, pretend you have a magic want that does not know your doubts about your own capability. If you could wave it, what do you want in the next 90 days?
Once you know what your goals are the most important thing you can do is sit down and write out your reasons why. You can do this in the form of a journal, brain storming or as a letter to anyone or even a letter to yourself. Your why is the single most important determining factor for your long-term success regarding any goal whether it be health related or not.
Don’t skip or skimp on the why step. Clear some space on your calendar, set a timer and devote yourself to deeply exploring this question. Ask yourself “why do I want this??” with every single goal individually. This is something I do in my “Discovery Session” with my clients. It is very interesting as the first answers to the why are some what vague. “I want to feel better in a swimsuit.” “I want to have more energy” “My doctor told me I needed to.” Some people cannot even verbalize why. Yet, the why must be bigger and deeper or they wouldn’t be looking for help achieving their goals. It takes time for some people to even allow themselves to fully understand why.
Take time to visualize having the goal accomplished now and ask the second steps to the why question. Ask yourself why this is important to you? What will having that do for you? How will it affect the people around you? How might it effect your job? How might it effect your relationships? With each of those answers again ask why that is important to you.
We call this the why behind the why. I can help you uncover this if you are having trouble in my free Discovery Session. I don’t charge or pressure you into buying anything. It’s just important enough that I am willing to work with anyone who is stuck or stagnant and can’t come up with compelling reasons why they want to achieve their goals.
Your why needs to be important enough to you to motivate you during the times falling into old patterns seems easiest. For instance, if you are cutting back on carbs as one of your goals. There will be times you are under stress or confronted with an amazing carb ridden meal and you will forget why you started cutting back on carbs to begin with. You will always choose what feels best in the moment. If in the moment your reasons for cutting back on carbs (your whys) aren’t understood, important and easily accessible, you will cave to short term pleasure. You will tell yourself all the reasons it is okay to give in and resort back to habits that do not support your goals.
When you have a strong why or several strong whys, they will still not always successfully stop the old habits but your brain will be able to relate to the very good reasons you are changing your habits. You can load up all the good images and feelings and reinforce your decisions to create new habits that will bring you closer to your goals. Many people go into a new program running on adrenaline. Adrenaline will not sustain you past 2 or 3 weeks. A strong reason why is what will continue to propel you forward.
Your brain will always want to go back to what it knows. It is in fear of anything that may threaten love, safety or belonging. That’s how it has kept us alive. Your brain doesn’t like change. You need to think about your whys often. You need to think of them and elaborate on them often. Your brain needs to enjoy and buy into the whys you have set for your new goals. I use your whys as a tool throughout my 90-day program. Your success is dependent on the depth you explore and understand the reason why you are wanting to achieve these goals in the first place.
You may want to give yourself a few days to contemplate your whys as you go through your day. Ask yourself if you had that now, how would it change this moment? If you are on vacation would you be doing more if you had more energy? How would that effect your relationship with your significant other? What would you be wearing or doing or seeing or feeling if you had your goals achieved right in that moment? The next time you step in the dressing room ask yourself how that moment might be different if you already had accomplished your goals. Do that with every moment of the day and keep a note pad or track your whys on your phone.
The key to short and long-term success is your list of whys! So, start letting your imagination go wild. If you feel stuck I will be happy to go through these questions with you in a Discovery Session.